Most mornings, I leave home with just enough time to get to work.
No margin, no wiggle room\u2014just calculated urgency.
I know exactly how long the drive takes, when and where the traffic peaks, and how to shave a minute or two off if I need to.
There\u2019s no time to waste.
Or so I tell myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On that stretch of road, I know the precise spots the speed van lurks and even the times it is likely to be there. After prolonged observation, I’m convinced it is the one van at the two spots!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It had become a rhythm of its own\u2014cutting it close, moving with purpose, feeling like I was in control. And I prayed, for my children, for my young one going to school and for all others. It wasn\u2019t until that evening that I found out what had happened. That knowledge landed heavy. What was I racing toward anyway? That day, the road held more than traffic. But I also saw something bigger. We race through our mornings, our meals, our milestones. We call it ambition. Or purpose. Or being productive. It wasn\u2019t guilt that filled me. It was clarity. That evening, I didn\u2019t tick off my to-do list. As a nurse, I\u2019m trained to respond\u2014to move quickly, to act. But that day reminded me: Slowing down isn\u2019t weakness. It\u2019s wisdom. And maybe that\u2019s what we\u2019re missing in this grand race. And is it giving you life, or just getting you through it?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Speed gets us through the day\u2014until it shows us what it\u2019s costing.
Then came the morning I met three ambulances on the road.
All headed the opposite way, lights flashing, sirens piercing.
I remember thinking, Something serious must have happened.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I kept driving.
I was late. I had work to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A road traffic accident.
A fatal one.
Just a few miles from where I\u2019d passed.
I had driven away from the chaos, unaware that a life had just slipped away behind me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And strangely, it made me feel like I\u2019d been rushing past more than just flashing lights.
I\u2019d been rushing past life itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What was I carrying that couldn\u2019t wait to be dropped?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It held a mirror.
And in it, I saw myself: always in motion, always a little ahead of now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019re all in a race.<\/strong>
Different tracks, different shoes\u2014but most of us are running.
Running to achieve.
To prove.
To arrive.
To stay relevant.
To not be left behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We check things off, stack accomplishments, say \u201cyes\u201d out of obligation, to feel present, scroll while we walk, talk while we think, exist while we strive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But sometimes, it\u2019s just noise.
Motion for motion\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because speed is seductive. It makes you feel important.
But what it often steals is presence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I sat. I breathed. I listened to my children fill me in with details (word on the school yard) of the accident and talk about their day with the kind of attention that doesn\u2019t multitask.
And the world didn\u2019t collapse.
It waited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a mother, I\u2019m always in motion\u2014a super woman.
As a quiet leader, I often feel the pull to stay ahead, to keep everything (and everyone) going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s not always about doing more.
Sometimes, the deepest form of care\u2014for others, for myself\u2014is found in slowing down.
In being wholly present.
In listening before leaping.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s the holy hush between moments\u2014the space where life, real life, waits to be felt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not success. Not meaning. Not drive.
But rhythm.
Stillness.
Breath.
Room enough to ask ourselves:
Why am I running? Who told me I had to? And what if rest is not falling behind\u2014but finally catching up with myself?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n**So I\u2019ll ask you, gently\u2014what pace are you living at?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\nThis is what the road can teach about slowing down.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":629,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[41],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-624","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-everyday-sacred","has-post-thumbnail-archive"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/the-revolutionised-self.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/lane-scaled.jpg?fit=1707%2C2560&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":260,"url":"https:\/\/the-revolutionised-self.com\/?p=260","url_meta":{"origin":624,"position":0},"title":"Finding Serendipity in a Hypertension Crash Course","author":"Herty","date":"May 22, 2021","format":false,"excerpt":"Can I share a brutal fact with you? 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